Of the many unpleasant emotions we can experience, fear may top the list.
66 Fear can also keep us from pursuing (追赶) the things in life that really matter -- like following our dreams, and developing important relationships. I have some ideas, though, of how to be free from fear.
l Experience fear.
I used to be very afraid of speaking in front of people. I would get sweaty palms and my stomach would be so tied up that I wouldn’t be able to eat. However, each time I spoke, I noticed afterwards that it wasn’t that bad. Things I fear are never as bad in reality as I make them out in my mind. 67
l Create space.
The first and most important step to being fearless is to create some space between ourselves and the emotion of fear. This isn’t reached by ignoring the fear, or trying to talk ourselves out of it. 68 In fact, a recent research shows that by simply admitting the emotion we actually begin to reverse (颠倒) the “fight or flight (逃避)” response in the body.
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Once we admit the presence of fear, the second step is to control the breathing so that it becomes slower and gentler. We try to make the breath just a little bit longer, and feel how fear appears in the body. As we pay attention to the physical symptoms (征兆) of fear, we can see fear objectively.
With practice, we can create enough space between us and the emotion of fear so that we’re able to replace a fearful thought with a positive one.
70 For example, before I get up to speak in front of a group of people, I imagine that the audience is positively impressed by what I say and that I manage to complete the speech successfully.
A. Space is created only when we can honestly admit that fear exists.
B. We can imagine a positive result for whatever we’re about to do.
C. Fear, if left uncontrolled, can even destroy our life.
D. So one way to get rid of (排除) fear is to simply push ourselves to do things that we fear.
E. When we can see a positive result in our mind, fear no longer stops us.
F. But fear is more than just physically unpleasant.
G. Control the breath and feel the fear.
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—Good afternoon. My name is Peter. I’m the general manager of the personnel department. I’ll be interviewing you. Please sit down.
— 61 , Peter. My name’s Jon. Jon Smash.
—Well, Jon, it’s a pleasure to meet you. 62 .
—I’ve been a manager at Nike for over three years. I won manager of the year award two years ago, and I got promoted last August.
—OK. Tell me about yourself…your personality.
— 63 . I think before I act, and if something goes wrong in our company I always remain calm. I never scream at my employees. And I’ve never lost my temper.
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—I think I’m good at solving problems. 65 . I also love challenges. I work well under pressure. When my boss pushes me to finish a project early I always get it done and never complain.
—Jon, you seem like a very good manager. I like your ambition. You’re very confident and motivated. We like that here at Microsoft. Well, our interview is over……
A. I’m glad it’s you who will offer me the opportunity to get the job B. I enjoy approaching problems directly C. Nice to meet you D. What are your strengths E. I owe my success to my employees F. Tell me about your work experience G. I think I’m very level-headed |
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